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A series of articles about online dating, love, relationships and marriage.
Make this your Year.
How was last year for you? There was in general very little optimism across much of the western world last year, economic problems, environmental fears and generally speaking feelings of doubt and  pessimism regarding the future were widespread.
What can you do about that? Actually, not so much, but what you can do about improving your own life and prospects is a different story altogether, this is something that you can actually influence dramatically and positively. Is your glass half empty, or half full? What is the difference, you might well say, well actually all the difference in the world, the difference between hope and despair and where can the hope come from? You! No that is too simplistic you may well be thinking, but no, that is the reality, both for you and every living person, but can you tap into and utilize this spring of hope?
If you are alive, then quite definitely yes. What do you hope for this year in your life? Are you in a relationship that you are happy with for example? If the answer is no, do something about it, these days the opportunities of finding your perfect partner are greater than they have ever been, now with online dating you can connect
with a world of singles and you for sure there are going to be a lot of people that you will find attractive, interesting and yes, even desirable and if anything is holding you back, deal with it, be positive, go for it.
How beautiful are you, no really this is a serious question because if you are alive there is a great beauty within you just waiting to manifest. The source of beauty lies within you because the source of beauty is life itself. Ok you may not have the looks of a model, but does anyone find a dead model attractive? Maybe this might seem to you an odd analogy, something that is clearly obvious, but we often overlook the obvious and that which is beneath our very nose. Not so happy with your figure, or physique? You can deal with it, it is within your power, ok, it will take discipline and determination, but if your happiness is dependent upon your efforts it is a small price to pay, yes?
So if you are alive the only limits to your own potential are the ones you set yourself, maybe the famous phrase of Barack Obama of "yes we can" was excessively optimistic, simply because we have no control over "we", but "Yes YOU can" is a different story all together, this is something that you can really implement within your own life and starting right now!
You are unique, there is absolutely nobody like you in the whole wide world, is that not something incredible, something that is very positive, only you need to wake up to your own incredible potential, allow your individuality to shine. It is the greatest asset you have and it is completely yours, no one can ever take it away from you, it was a gift for you and you alone.
Why not share that incredible gift with others, your opinions, perceptions and points of view are valid, completely valid, so far as they are yours and not borrowed, or copied from another and do you know what? Within that bundle of contradictions, hopes, fears, knowledge and ignorance that goes to make up you is a beauty and attractiveness that is irrisistable, go for it, realize your own potential and then share it with all around you. You can compete on any level, you are not here through accident and if you are not yet attached, or committed within a relationship, you can become irrisistable!
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We in the online dating business are, we hope bringing together hearts and minds in a loving and caring relationship, but the statistics tell us that in the west now, one third, or more of marriages are doomed to divorce and separation, that is a lot of pain, frustration and dissapointment. Why has divorce reached epedemic proportions?
What are the root core dynamics of a successful relationship? Clearly a mutual attraction is going to be at, or near the top of the list, but mutual attraction of what qualities? Good looks, good body, sexy etc., etc., these are good starting points, but only starting points.
For a relationship to survive in the 21st century the bond has to be deeper and given care, attention and time this appreciation can grow, but and this is a big but, this deeper level of mutual understanding and respect should be allowed to develop and evolve before marriage, this should be part of the courtship, or engagement process. Why? Simply because without this bedrock of pride, appreciation and respect for your partner the foundation of the union is as sand in a storm and susceptible to any external circumstance.
Yes sex appeal and physical beauty is a wonderful thing, as is that first rush of love, it has been the root of song writting and poetry for an age, but can it stand the test of time, the reality of surviving in these difficult economic times? Bringing up children, shopping, maintaining a house, mortgage, career etc., can soon take the gloss off of those initial powerful feelings of lust, longing and wanting.
It is a strange thing that whilst a lot of effort is put into teaching us many things in our formative years, forming and sustaining a relationship, marriage and raising children is something we are left to get on with as best we can, at least in the west and this could in part account for the huge number of marriages that end in failure, dissapointment and bitterness.
Statistically second marriages have even less chance of surviving than the first and if we look at the rich and famous that often marry four, five, or more times, the chances of the union surviving seem to decrease rather than increase as the process is repeated.
So in reverse to the saying, "The grass is not neccesarily greener on the other side of the hill".Try to get it right first time.
Online Dating Statistics
 This is one of a series of articles that we hope will be both of interest to you and help you enjoy your Online Dating experience. There are millions of singles out there just like you seeking love, romance, flirting and friendship. Start dating.....
Online dating is one of the success stories of the internet. Recent statistics show 38,000,000 visited online dating sites Comscore World Metrix. That is 18% of European internet users. In America some 40,000,000 people use online dating services. That’s 40% of American internet users and equally according to “Online Dating Magazine” Some 20,000,000 million people use online dating services at least once a month and 120,000 marriages a year in America are attributed to online dating. Some indication of the numbers of singles now using online dating and it continues to grow.
Incredible statistics.......The average age of these users? It would seem 18-84 and the average person using internet dating has a university degree or similar. The split between men and women users seems to be even. So these are not sad or stupid individuals.
Why this phenomenal success of online dating? As everyone leads busier and busier lives the opportunity for traditional link ups become less, but equally online dating is the reversal of traditional pick ups where physical attraction is King and compatibility and suitability a very distant second.
Online dating is the reversal. People can search through their wish list of characteristics, personality types, educational qualifications, life style etc., etc. Plus they can see through photo exchange if there is a physical attraction.
When these people eventually meet they almost know each other! Andrea Baker a professor of sociology at Ohio University says that her research shows the longer the two people communicated before their first face to face meeting, the better the encounter and if the chemistry is right the relationship can very quickly move to a deeper level.
So in many parts of the world today online dating has become the norm rather than the exception. IWired magazine forecast that within 20 years the idea of seeking ones partner, or love without looking online will be akin to travelling from London to Moscow without a map. Yes not very wise.
It would seem the story in Ukraine is quite different and that online dating is in decline, viewed with suspicion and even fear. This is a great pity.
Confidential Matchmakers hope to change the opinion within the Ukraine of online dating. Based on a European model Confidential Matchmakers exist simply to present the possibility of international connections between Ukraine/Russian women and men from all over the world (Confidential Matchmakers will shortly be presenting the same opportunity to Ukraine and Russian men). There are no hidden agendas and their need be no doubts, fears or, suspicions. The members choose with whom they choose to communicate and with whom they would feel happy to meet. It’s as simple as that.
So come on Ukraine, wake up to the possibilities and opportunities presented by the World Wide Web. What is the great attraction worldwide of Russian-Ukraine women? Quite simply their exceptional beauty, their way above average intelligence their level of education and the high level of elegance, cultural grounding and feminity.
We have posted many more articles at our Blog.
The Dating Game.
Why do so many people play emotional games? Did you know that it is essentially an indication of insecurity on the part of the player, it is the equivalent of a defensive wall, but if you are at the receiving  end, that is probably little consolation.
Online dating is as with most things in life, what you get out of it will probably be proportionate to what you put in, though there is no accounting for lady luck. Openess is a very attractive feature and if we are dating online we are hoping to attract suitable prospective partners,right?
If you are about to sign up, give it your best shot, if you have had bad experiences, join the club, who has not, but this is a brand new start and could be the beginning of the rest of your life! Actually our life experiences, both good and bad is how we have become who we are.
So thats a little advice, which we hope is useful. There can no longer be any doubts about the validity, or effectiveness of online dating and these days examples of successful relationships that came about from online dating are all around, in fact many now have friends or relatives that have found their partner through online dating.
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